Her new map..

(All happy families resemble one another, but each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.)


A line sums up the reality, the reality of our own lives. I have always been interested in what makes a family happy?...Rather what makes a person happy? Is it friends? is it money? or is it simply being contented with what you have even if it is too little?

But what if a person has friends, money and is contented with what she has but still she is unhappy?! She is unhappy in her own way!

What if this unhappy person is the same one who writes these words, the same one who tries to find the truth of " Happiness"?!

What shall she do? What shall she do?!

Shall she go to her usual dark corner? or Shall she swim in the depth of her own heart?
It has been 3 years till now and she still in that corner…Is it really the time to open that door??

But, it is a difficult question. It is hard to try discover the truth of happiness alone. Alone…yes, this is the key word.

ALONE ALONE!!

This is the answer " Alone"….It is her own way of unhappiness!!

She has friends around her but still she feels alone; she has money but still she feels alone, she is contended but still she feels so alone!!

Loneliness becomes a feature of her life. It is not a condition of being among people or not….it is a condition of feelings, is a condition of heart. She feels the same when she is surrounded and when she is in her own room….Alone.

Her loneliness is her own way. She is alone not because she doesn't have people around her, but because all these people don’t care!!! She needs to be loved, to be appreciated, to be IMPORTANT.

Her loneliness is her own way. Three years, she seems as if standing in amid of desert..listens only to the wind and feels the heat of the sun not on her body ..but in her heart…to cry and weep and nobody listen but winds, this is Loneliness.

To live as a hypnotized for three years is not easy..and the most difficult is to try to lie!!
Three years and she could not abandon her friend..this friend who imposes itself on her !! Wherever she goes it accompanies her stealing everything but her tears.
Yes, this friend deprives her from everything but tears..her cheeks become a witness of this friendship!!

Three years and she tries to deceive herself …to deceive her mind. She closes all her heart's doors..and convince her mind that she loves this friend and its company ..it could be her friend forever.

At last, she decides to open that door after three years..after three years in the prison of that friend. She opens it to discover the truth ..the truth that she has been hiding for three years, hiding from everyone even her own mind!!

She doesn’t want to be a friend of loneliness, she doesn't want to live alone anymore, to live that big lie!!

She wants to change the map of all her life…to be born again a new person…to simply be as all happy family.

She is certain that she will walk a baby step towards this new map..She may spend her lifelong to achieve this goal, but at least she might know a new friend…she might be able to change that dark corner to a more colorful one…

That door is opened now and no way of retreating.
No more lies, no more deception could be believable…she has chosen to open that door and she has to continue..

She will trade that path holding FOUR hopes for four PERSONS:

That he will be proud of her..
The other to forgive her
And she to be her friend again
and finally that Allah will reward him for everything he has done, to bless him all his life

Thanks God for everything…Thanks God for sending him to her..Thanks God.

(I) Can't Believe You're Gone...

Dad, (my) sadness knows no end;
(I) can’t believe you’re gone;
(I'm) grieving for you every day;
It’s hard to carry on.

You were always there to support and care,
When (I) needed a true friend,
How (I)’ll ever do without (my) dad,
(I) cannot comprehend.

You were (my) teacher and (my) guide,
(My) dad, so good and strong;
Your example will sustain (me) now,
And last (my) whole (life) long.

(I'm) trying to communicate;
(I) hope that you can hear;
Expressing what (I) feel for you,
Helps (me) feels you’re near.

(My) memories of the times we had
Help the pain to go away.
But Dad, (my) life won’t be the same;
(I)’ll miss you every day.

A part of (me) went with you;
You left a gap too big to fill;
You’re (my) father and (my) hero;
(I) love you and (I) always will.

By Joanna Fuchs

Don't judge what is above my head but judge what inside my head!!

I really want to send this messege to every one whether a Muslim or not...Wearing a Veil is all mere a choice made by the woman herself..No one can force her to wear it or not..though there are many evidences of its obligation...It is still the woman's chioce to wear it or not.

Many have argued whether the woman should wear only a scarf or wear both the scarf and the veil .However, apart of these arguments ,people must know one thing, as King Rania said

Don't judge what is above our head, Judge what is inside our head!

That is really what matters..not my veil or scarf....but what i can do for my religion, country, societyand my family.

I'm proud of wearing my veil.....so judge my mind, opinion and knowledge. Dont't judge the colour of my veil!!

Veil in the light of Qur'an and Sunnah (2)

To continue in the previous subject of Veil....the essay goes on:

Narrated “Abdullah bin Umar (radhiallaho unho) a man asked. “O Allah’s Messenger! What kind of clothes have you ordered for us in the state of Ihram? The Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said:
“He should not wear a shirt, trousers, a turban, a head-cloak, except if he can find no slippers he can wear leather socks after cutting off what might cover the ankles. And he should not wear clothes which are scented with saffron or wars (kinds of perfume) and Muhrimah should not let down veil and should not wear gloves.”(Sahih-al-Bukhari Kitab-ul-Manasik)
When we study the Hadith cited above, we find two things:
(a) This is a special rule for women while they are in Ihram. It is also proved from the Hadith that the general ruling for the women while out of Ihram are that, they should wear gloves, socks and let down the veil over their faces. If there was no practice of this Hijab (i.e. wearing of socks, gloves and covering of face with Jalbab) then there was no need for this specification in Ihram.
As one verse of the Quran explains the meaning of another verse of the Quran, in the same manner one Hadith is explanation of the other Hadith. Same is the case with the Hadith of Abdullah bin Umar narrated by Imam Bukhari in his book Sahih-al-Bukhari. Because the Hadith of Abu Daood narrated by Ayesha (radhiallaho unha) explains the meaning of Sahih Bukhari’s Hadith. Complete Hadith of Abu Daood is as follows:
“Ayesha (radhiallaho unha) said: Riders would pass us when we accompanied the Apostle of Allah (SAW) while we were in the sacred state (wearing Ihram). When they would pass by us one of us would let down her garment from her head over her face, and when they had passed on, we would uncover our faces.” (Narrated by Abu Daood Kitab-ul-Manasik wal-Hajj.
The words of Ayesha (radhiallaho unha) are the clear evidence that the covering of face for women is obligatory. Opening of face for women in the state of Ihram is obligatory according to many scholars, and an obligation can be given up only when there is an order which cancels it. But if that action of Ayesha and other mother of Ummah was not correct then the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) should certainly have forbidden them
Some people cite the incident of Fatima bint Qais (radhiallaho unha) which is as follow s:
“Fatima bint Qais reported that Abu Amr bin Hafs divorced her absolutely when he was away from home and he sent his agent to her with some barley. She was displeased with him and when he said: I swear by Allah that you have no claim on us, she went to Allah’s Messenger (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) and told him about that. He (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said: He owes you no maintenance, and he (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) commanded her to spend the Iddah in the house of Umm Sharik, but then said: That is a woman whom my companions visit. So better spend this period in the house of Ibn Umm Maktum, for he is a blind man and you can put off your veil---------“(Narrated by Sahih Muslim). The same Hadith is reported in the books of Hadith in slightly different words.
From the above Hadith it is proved that Abu Hafs bin Mughira was away from home when he sent the irrevocable divorce to his wife Fatima bint Qais through his agent.
So when Fatima bint Qais (radhiallaho unha) received irrevocable divorce from her husband, she was afraid that she might be put to hardship, particularly, when she knew that there was no provision of lodging and alimony for her, because her husband had sent her only five measures of dates and five measures of barley which were insufficient for her during her waiting period (i.e. Iddah), particularly, in the absence of any other provision of lodging and alimony.
Under the above circumstances Fatima bint Qais said: “By Allah, I will inform Allah’s Messenger (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) and if alimony is due to me then I will accept that which will be sufficient for me and if it is not due to me, I will not accept anything from him”. When she mentioned that to Allah’s Messenger (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) and he (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said:
“How many pronouncements of divorce have been made to you? I said: Three. He (SAW) said what he had stated was true. There is no alimony and lodging for you.” She was required to spend the Iddah and he (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) sent her the message that she should not be hasty in making a decision about herself and commanded her to move to the house of Umm Sharik. Then sent her the message that the companions (frequently) visit the house of Umm Sharik (as she had a very large family and had so many relatives to visit her). Allah’s Messenger (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) did not deem it proper to keep her in her house as her visitors were non-Mehram to Fatima bint Qais and she was thus required to observe veil). She was advised to go to the house of Ibn Umm Maktum, the blind. Then the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) further said, “In case you put off head-dress he (Ibn Umm Maktum) will not see you”. So she went to his house and when the Iddah was over, Allah’s Messenger (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) married her to Usama bin Zaid bin Haritha.
Some people argue that Allah allowed aged women to put off their veil. They argue that Allah states in His Book: “And as for women past child-bearing, who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing----------”
If we study the complete verse then we find that this exemption of putting off the outer garments for aged women is conditional. It is clear from the following verse:
“And as for women past child-bearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment. But to refrain (i.e. not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them. And Allah is All Hearer, All Knower”. (An-Nur: 60)
Although Allah allowed the aged women to discard their outer clothing yet He also said that “But to refrain (i.e. not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them.”
As far as the narration of Jabir bin Abdullah is concerned the incident might have taken place before the revelation of instructions regarding veil, because the Eid Prayer was made obligatory in the 2nd Hijra while the instructions were revealed in 5th or 6th Hijra. (For reference please see Seerat Ibn Hasham)
So, it is not possible to draw a conclusion against observing veil from this incident.
So from the narration of Jabir bin Abdullah also we cannot draw a rule for young women.

Another incident that proved that the obligation of covering face is narrated by Imam Muslim:
“Muhammad bin Qais said (to the people): Should not I narrate to you [(a Hadith of the Holy Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam)] on my authority and on the authority of my mother? We thought that he meant the mother who had given him birth. He (Muhammad bin Qais) then reported that it was Ayesha (radhiallaho unha) who had narrated this: Should not I narrate to you (an incident) about myself and about the Messenger of Allah (sallallaho alaihi wasallam)? We said: Yes. She said: When it was my turn for Allah’s Messenger (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) to spend the night with me, he turned up, put on his mantle and took off his shoes and placed them near his feet. He spread the corner of his shawl on his bed and then lay down till he thought that I had gone to sleep. He took hold of his mantle and put on the shoes, and opened the door and went out and then closed it quietly, I covered my head, put on my veil and tightened my waist wrapper, then went out following his steps till he reached Baqi’. He stood there for a long time. He then lifted his hands three times and then returned and I also returned.”--------(Sahih Muslim)
This tradition also proves that the covering of face with veil is obligatory. If the covering of the face was not obligatory then there was no need for Ayesha (radhiallaho unha) to cover it.

There are many Ahadith that prove that covering of face for women is obligatory. But the traditions quoted above sufficiently prove the point. May Allah enable us to carry out His commands. Ameen!

Veil in the light of Qur'an and Sunnah (1)

Scholars differ whether the veil must cover the hands and face or not. There are two schools of thought. One school of thought says the veil must cover the hands and face, while the other school of thought says the veil should only cover the body, face and hands are not necessary. First of all we see the arguments of the second school of thought.
1. Allah the Almighty states in the Quran “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual act, etc.) and not show off their adornment except only which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes) and to draw their veils, all over Juyubihinna and not to reveal their adornment --------” (Surah An-Nur 24;31)
They argue that Allah gives permission to open face and hands and it is clear from the words of “except only that which is apparent”.
2. Ayesha (radhiallaho unha) reported that once her sister, Asma (radhiallaho unha) visited her in finery------while the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) was at home. He (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) turned away from her and said, “O Asma, when a woman reaches puberty it is not lawful for her to uncover any part of her body except this.” He (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) then pointed to his face and hand. (Abu Daood)
The above narration is one of the most commonly presented as proof for leaving the face and hands uncovered.
3. Narrated Anas (radhiallaho unho) on the day (of the battle) of Uhud when (some) people retreated and left the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) I saw Ayesha bint Abi Bakar and Umm Sulaim with their robes tucked up so that the bangles around their ankles were visible, hurrying with their water skins (in another narration it is said, “carrying the water skins on their backs”) Then they would pour water in the mouths of the people, and return to fill the water skins again and come back again to pour water into the mouths of the people.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
Some peoples argue that if Hijab is essential then why were the bangles of Ayesha bint Abi Bakr and Umm Sulaim visible around their ankles?
4. Jabir bin Abdullah said I attended the Eid Prayer with the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam). First he offered the prayer before Khutba without Adhan and Iqamah. Then, as he was leaning against Bilal (radhiallaho unho) and ordered to fear Allah and come towards His obedience. He preached the people and advised them. After this he attended to women and preached them. He said to them to give alms. Many of them are the fuel of Hell. One woman who had thin cheeks stood up------”
Some people also argue from this tradition that covering face for women is not obligatory.
Now we analyse the above evidences and also the evidences of the other school of thought.
2. “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or hands and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna and not to reveal adornment except ---------“(Surah An Nur)
Scholars who believe that face and hands are not included in Hijab argue that Allah allowed the woman to uncover the face and hand as Allah, the Almighty states in these words “except only that which is apparent.” They also argue that the commentary of Ibn Abbas (radhiallaho unho) cleared the meaning of the words “except only that which is apparent.
According to Ibn Abbas the meaning of the “except only that which is apparent, “ is the face and hands.
The commentary of Ibn Abbas is accepted only when there is no other commentary against the commentary of Ibn Abbas. But there are some commentaries of the other companions of the Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam), like Ibn Masud. The commentary of Ibn Masud of “-except only that which is apparent “is that of outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron etc. Because there is no way one can cover these things i.e. outer dress, veil, gloves etc.
It is also narrated that Asma (radhiallaho unha) visited in finery while the Prophet was at home ---------(Abu Daood)
There are some internal and external evidences and due to these evidences this Hadith of Abu Daood cannot be relied upon. It is clear from the following discussion :-
The narration of Anas (radhiallaho unho) can be elaborated in the following three ways:-
This is the event of the Ghazwa Uhad and the Ghazwa Uhad was fought in Shawal 03 Hijra, while on the other hand the instructions regarding veil were revealed in fifth or sixth Hijra. The event of Ayesha bint Abi Bakr and Umm Sulaim took place before the revelation of these instructions. So this event cannot become a concluding evidence.
Muslim women tended to the wounded during the holy battles in the state of Hijab, following the ordainment of Hijab.
The event of battle of Uhud or some other events of holy battles are exceptional. Principally we cannot draw a permanent rule from such exceptional events.

Continues.....

Remember

Remember me when I am gone away,

Gone far away into the silent land;

When you can no more hold me by the hand,

Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.

Remember me when no more day by day

You tell me of our future that you plann'd:

Only remember me; you understand

It will be late to counsel then or pray.

Yet if you should forget me for a while

And afterwards remember, do not grieve:

For if the darkness and corruption leave

A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,

Better by far you should forget and smile

Than that you should remember and be sad.

By Christina Rossetti

I had a jewel......by Emily Dickinson

I held a jewel in my fingers

And went to sleep

The day was warm, and winds were prosy

I said, "Twill keep"

I woke - and chide my honest fingers,

The Gem was gone And now,

an Amethyst remembrance Is all I own.

Sympathy

I KNOW what the caged bird feels, alas!

When the sun is bright on the upland slopes;

When the wind stirs soft through the springing grass,

And the river flows like a stream of glass;

When the first bird sings and the first bud opes,

And the faint perfume from its chalice steals —

I know what the caged bird feels!

I know why the caged bird beats his wing

Till its blood is red on the cruel bars;

For he must fly back to his perch and cling

When he fain would be on the bough a-swing;

And a pain still throbs in the old, old scars

And they pulse again with a keener sting —

I know why he beats his wing!

I know why the caged bird sings, ah me,

When his wing is bruised and his bosom sore,—

When he beats his bars and he would be free;

It is not a carol of joy or glee,

But a prayer that he sends from his heart's deep core,

But a plea, that upward to Heaven he flings —

I know why the caged bird sings!

By the great poet Dunbar

I still have colour in my life!!!!

There is pain everywhere...

Still, there is life everywhere.

I have my pains....but I have my life, too.

I have a black-white day...but I have many colourful days.

Yes, I'm sad..

Still, I have hope, love, eagriness to life.

I try hard to colour my days..to be blue, yellow, red and green.

I hope you swim in My Colourful World ...just to know that I really stil have life within my heart!!

Dreams...

I was a child..

so innocent,

so naive!!

I built a castel of sand..

Idreamed of a wonderful land!!

I flew with birds..

I played with children around the world!!

I was a flower..

I was rain..

I was sun..

I was the princess of my land!!

I was a child..

so innocent,

so naive!!

I lived in that world twenty years..

so happy, so pleased.

Till one day, one slapped me in my face!!

I wake up crying..

crying..

crying..

I cried over my ruined life..

I was no flower any more

I was no rain any more

I was no Princess any more!!

My dreamland became only a ghost land..

No one live there.

No laugh..

No shout..

Only Me and the mirage!!

I was so alone..

So frightened..

I did not know where to go..

I did not know what to do..

I was only Alone.

I tried to know who had done this to me..

who had slapped me on my face?

But, I did not sereach long...

Soon I found out..

Soon I knew who had done this to me..

It was only Reality..

It was only Life..

It was how people suppose to live in this life!!

No dreams..

No wishes..

No desires..

I was a child..

So innocent,

So naive!!

Farewell

Tonight is different..

No stars...

No moon..

Only Darkness in my Zone.

I wonder..

Is that who I am ..

A starless

Moonless night?

I try to sort out the truth..

What is the meaning of my life?

What is my ife for?

But all I know are memories..

Memories of depart..

Momories of farewell and Goodbye.

A tear rolls down my cheek..

I felt I was very weak.

All my life I thought

Farewell is death..and death is depart!

I have never thought

I will depart with someone still laugh

with someone still alive!

It is more painful..

more torturous

...it is only more destructive.

But what can I do?

Shall I cry?

Shall I weep?

But What shall I gain?

I wept every one I have met..

But no one I ever met..

Still tonight is a differnt night..

and I'll do something different.

I'll forget this farewel

and I'll pary for him.

I'll pray for him

and I'll pary for me

To know who am I?

To be as he teaches me

to be

A starful

moonful

Night.....

I.Q Test

I.Q. (intelligence quotient) in general, is an assessment of your ability to think and reason. IQ score is a standardized way of comparing this ability with the majority of people the same age as you are. A score of 100 means that compared to these people in your general age group that you have basically an average intelligence. Most psychologists would say those scoring in a range of 95 to 105 are of a normal intelligence or have an average IQ. Actual IQ score may vary plus or minus five points since it is very difficult to get an IQ score with complete accuracy. Keep in mind, there are many outside factors that may have a negative impact on your score. For instance, if you are not feeling well at the time of taking the test. Or perhaps you are distracted by something on that particular day. These things may affect your score. Additionally, IQ is not the be all end all of a person's abilities in life. IQ score fails to measure things such as manual dexterity (obviously), musical talent, and a slew of other abilities that may lead one to many different successes in life. However, your score on an IQ test will give you a pretty accurate indication of the ability you possess to think, reason and solve problems which can often be critical in many phases of your life.

This is my result...134

That means

I'm Gifted (2.3% of test takers) (^_^)

So, do not wait try yourself!!

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Our Destiny

It was our destiny..

one lives, the other dies.

one waits, the other departs.

It was your destiny..

to leave me alone.

and it was my destiny..

to grieve over you.

But today, I will shed no more tears

Cause all of me is with you..

All of me and more is with you.

I'll live your memeories..

your eyes..

your heart..

even your cries.

One moment with you has meant the world to me.

So, please

hear me!!

listen to me!!

It is our destiny

to live each other

one here

the other there..

I asked the Strength

I asked for Strength.........

And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for Wisdom.........

And God gave me Problems to solve.

I asked for Prosperity.........

And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work.

I asked for Courage.........

And God gave me Danger to overcome.

I asked for Love.........

And God gave me Troubled people to help.

I asked for Favours.........

And God gave me Opportunities.

I received nothing I wanted

I received everything I needed

My Prayer has been answered

from Jannah.org.

Hope

It is all what I have...

to hope and hope and hope.

When there is a tear in my eye

I hope..

When there is a sob in my throat

I hope..

When the darkness surrounds me

I hope..

It is all what I have..

to hope the sun will shine again..

to hope my heart will beat again..

to hope that my life will continue again and again..

It is all what I have

to hope and hope and hope...

He has gone..

Darkness is everywhere..

I couldn't see..

I couldn't even try.

I scream all I could..

but no one hears.

I cry all I could..

but no one cares.

He has gone..

the one who hears.

He has gone ..

the one who cares.

He has gone..

He will never be here.

I still see him everywhere..

I still remember his eyes..

his smile..

and his laugh.

In this darkness

I couldn't see..

but Him.

He haunts me everywhere....

in Darkness and light..

I couldn't forget him.

He is everywhere..

Everyman is he..

Every laugh is his.

He has gone..

and my heart has too..

I could live no longer..

He was my life...and my life ended..

Is it possible that life will continue without him?

Is it possible that I could laugh and he is not there?

I don't believe that!!!

But as long as I'm body without heart..

I will remember him...

I will love him...

I will pray for him..

Till my God reunion me with him..

Loneliness...

When you close youe doors, and make darkness within , remember never to say that you are alone, for you are not alone; nay, God is within, and your genius is within. And what need have they of light to see what you are doing?

What is L.O.V.E?

What is LOVE?

I think this is very simple......

Love is as Shakespeare said:

( It is a mixture of Suffering, Pain, Purity, Fedality, Passion, Fear and Separation!!)

My Prayer..

Five times a day, I retreat from life, pause and renew my intention for living. It's not Just kids and work, fun and problems. There's more, much more ... Lying just beneath the surface of our everyday thoughts. If we dare to peer within, we'll find it, the home of peace; of truth ; an acute awareness of what is wrong and right, of what is worthwhile and what is wasted.

I stand still and concentrate on the spot on the carpet where my forehead will soon rest, casting aside all worries, fears and hopes, and focusing on the only One Who can help, Who can forgive, Who is Well-Aware of everything. Quietly, so only myself can hear, I recite the verses of Qur'an that remind us, in every prayer, of the One Who showers Mercy of those who deserve it and those who don't. The One to whom, all Judgment lies and Whom we are all to return to, at an appointed time. I remember that no one can help me, no one can waylay my fears, no one can turn the tide of events, except the One to Whom all help is sought.

I recite the verses that remind us of mercy, tolerance and forgiveness; raising the consciousness to see through the empty words that people speak, to the meaning that may have been intended. So I forgive. I recite those verses telling of good deeds and trust in the Lord of all. The best of planners, the Subduer of evil and the Exalter of Whom He pleases. So , I try my best, ask for help and leave the rest to Allah and I rely on Him only. I recite the verses promising victory to those who strive to uphold piety, that place of rest and peace that lies not so far ahead and the Source of all Peace Whose help is always near. So, I wipe away my tears and keep on trying, never giving up.

My prayer, is a way of life. It comes five times a day but the rest of the time it is in preparation for the next, awareness of the passing time, remembering my duty to my Creator and my responsibility to my own soul. So whatever I'm doing, I stop and put it aside, wash and stand in prayer, trying to look within, at the faults that follow me around in my life, of the evil my hands have sent forth, and seek guidance, forgiveness and escape from the evil consequences of what I may have done. I think of the marvels of the universe, how infinitely beautiful and amazing as they are. The wonders of my own self, the physical human body and the wonders it contains. The depth and breadth of the mind, that few of us can compass and then I look to the trivial pleasures of life, the transient nature of our existence and I feel an urge to do more, to try harder, to be better than I was the day before. And so I bow before my Creator, acknowledging the fact that only He deserves my sincerity, my obedience and my love. All else in life, is secondary to the fact that if He hadn't chosen to create me, I would never have existed. Here I am! Here's my duty.

Worship is not only prayer and fasting but the way we live, the way we speak, the way we treat people and the way we solve problems. Knowing that we weren't only Created and left to discern truth for ourselves, I adhere to the guidance given to me , to steady me on the path that leads to success in this life and the next.

The Habit of Loving your Life.

1. Take Care of YOU First. Always. No matter what. No excuses. If you do something for someone else without taking care of yourself first, you'll resent it. And you'll end up punishing yourself. Workout. Eat well. Relax. Take care of your body. Take time out. Keep away from toxic people and toxic situations. If you don't feel good, you aren't good...for anybody. Most importantly...for yourself.

2. Don't Do Everything Alone. It's exhausting. It's overwhelming. It's usually not worth it. And it's impossible. Ask for help. Find support. Delegate. Or simply don't do it. If you're overworked and overwhelmed, you're not good for anybody...most importantly...yourself.

3. Learn to Say "NO". I can NEVER say this enough! The power of the feminine comes from saying "NO" to anything that is immoral, illegal or unethical. It is also saying "NO" to anything that doesn't FEEL good. I don't know why saying "NO" is soooooo hard for many of us. But saying "NO" can often support the greater good of "yes". Saying "NO" to other people's requests helps us achieve our more important goals...specifically taking care of ourselves. Believe me. It's okay. You will still be loved when you say "NO" because you simply can't (or won't) do it all.

4. Prioritize. Know what's important. And more importantly...what's NOT. If it doesn't fit with your passion, values and goals, don't do it. No matter what. Someone else will do it (if it really needs to be done) and everything will be just fine.

5. Accept. Reject. But NEVER TOLERATE. Accept a person or a situation for who or what it is. Or walk away from it. NEVER tolerate a person or situation. NEVER. Toleration will hurt you. It will destroy the relationship anyway. And it can make you sick. Tolerations are the things that you "put up" with. Incomplete decisions. Negative people. Broken agreements. Petty annoyances. Irritants.

6. Go Where You're Wanted . People who need people are lucky people. People who want people who don't want them are unworthy people. Stay away from people and places where you don't feel wanted. Or appreciated. Or acknowledged. Life is so much easier when you put yourself with people and in situations where you're wanted. People who like you and want you will make you feel good. Go with them.

7. Talk Less. Listen More. (This is a really hard one.) But talking is exhausting. It's easier to listen. You don't work so hard. And you learn things. When you listen you can see the person for who he is. You can see what he has to offer. You can see what he doesn't.

Take care of you and be in the habit of Loving Your Life!

Our Parents..

ALL religions of the world have laid great emphasis on the rights of parents and the duties of children towards them. According to Islamic teachings, to be obedient and to show kindness to parents has been enjoined in the Holy Quran in such a manner as to say that among the noble deeds, to obey parents, treat them respectfully and to show kindness to them is next to worshipping Almighty Allah. The Holy Quran says, "Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor." - Surah Al Isra (17:23).

According to Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), the parents of a certain person arehis Heaven or Hell. What this means is that if a person obeys his parents, attends to their needs and keeps them happy and comfortable, he will attain Paradise. On the other hand, if he is disrespectful and rude to them, offends them by ignoring their needs and feelings or causes them grief in any manner, his place shall be in Hell. In modern times, a trend has arisen whereby when parents come to be seen as a liability because of old age and physical weakness. They are then sent to 'old people's homes'.

But the stricture ordained by Islam makes it clear that shrugging off the responsibility of old parents serves as an invitation to Hell. Both the father and mother are equal when it comes to caring for them and providing them all possible physical comforts and mental peace. The time that the parents need to be looked after most, is in their old age. To serve them devotedly at that stage of their lives is the best way of pleasing Almighty Allah. It is also one of the easiest ways of attaining Paradise. Abu Hurairah, a companion of the holy Prophet, has said that "a person is indeed disgraced, who does not earn Paradise by caring for his parents during the life time and old age of his/her parents".

What does it mean..

What does it mean when someone tell you ( You are my life)?

Answers may vary....you may be happy, you may be excited or you may be simply un effected!!

To me, the answer will not vary...It is one definite answer :

I will be disappointed!!

Yes, to be " The essence of one's life" will just bring sadness, misunderstanding, more quarrels and finally separation.

To be " his or her life", means to end thinking about yourself; it is only " Him or Her" who must be thinking about!!

Love is great when we are far away of each other but once we are together and " we are the essence of each other life" .....Only, here the problem begin..

The Perfect Wife.

A man called Nasrudin was talking to his friend , who asked him: " Have you ever considered getting married?"

" I have" replied Nasrudin. "In my youth, I resolved to find the perfect woman. I cossed the desert and reached Damascus, and I met a lovely, very spiritual woman, but she knew nothing of the world. I continued my journey and went to Isfhan; there I met a woman who knew both the spiritual and the material world, but she wasn't pretty! Then I decided to go to Cairo, where I dined in the house of a beautiful woman, who was both religious and a connoisseur of material reality."

" Why didn't you marry her, then?"

" Alas, my friend..She was looking for the perfect man , too!!"